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Posted: July 20, 2014 2:00 a.m.
Updated: July 20, 2014 2:00 a.m.

I agree with Gary Horton (Opinion, July 9). It seems though that our country is less civil. If I speak of our President, I will state “our President” or “Mr. Barack Obama.”

When I see on Facebook pictures of elected people using degrading words, I pass. I don’t hit “like.”

Our civic mentality should start with the people whom we have elected. What they say is often impolite. The savoir vivre (good manners) has been replaced by the laissez-faire (let’s do it.)

It is critical to restore our civic manners in the schools for the future generations.

Oh how much I have loved the civilities that my parents and my teachers taught me. We started our day at school with a lesson of morals. I learned not to bully.

Having a handicapped sister in my school taught me also how important it was to accept our differences. We sang patriotic songs, and in class we learned of the French poets and writers. We also were taught arts with no need for graffiti. We learned how to respect the property of others. We did not see litter on the streets.

My youth was the embellishment of my life. It made me who I am today: respectful, open and civil. I care about others and that does not make me a Democrat or a Republican. I vote for the most respectful human being.

Some of us came from poor, middle class, or rich families. I really think that parents and teachers and churches make us who we are. Even if a child lives in a bad environment, a teacher or church should still be able to contribute to his/her personality.

My parents were poor, but because they had to leave school at an early age (9 years old,) they wanted us to be more educated than them. Is that why I have been able to work with my husband for our company in America?

Nowadays, a child grows up with rewards. I remember using a big voice toward my grandchildren, in a shop, when they had a tantrum. People looked at me in a strange way. I was not going to let the kids have my phone for them to break it. My duty was to show them that in life we don’t always get what we want.

Society has lost its ground regarding the education of children. Adults have become more and more impatient and aggressive. That does not give kids the freedom to be disrespectful. Negativity attracts negativity. Let’s finish this article with a sense of positivity.

Let’s start by being confident. Educate the new generation with a touch of love, punishment, and rewards and let it explore the new technologies with incentives and not as a babysitting excuse. We are here to help a child and encourage him/her to succeed in civil ways.



BrianBaker: Posted: July 20, 2014 9:37 a.m.

"Some of us came from poor, middle class, or rich families."


Where'd the rest of you come from? Mars?

projalice11: Posted: July 20, 2014 12:47 p.m.

Bingo Anne Maria *****

stevehw: Posted: July 20, 2014 5:12 p.m.

Jeez, it necessary to be so rude to everyone?

Her point was quite clear to even the dullest of readers.

Grow up.

BrianBaker: Posted: July 20, 2014 7:34 p.m.

Oh, boo-hoo, stevie-boy.

Now you're whining about someone else's "victimhood"?

It's called a "joke", bubba. I thought it was pretty funny.

Allan_Cameron: Posted: July 20, 2014 8:51 p.m.

The letter writer says she thinks that we are less civil. We are now beyond the midst of observing the 150 year anniversary of the American Civil War. 600,000 died. Millions were wounded. The southern part of the US is not yet fully recovered.

In addition to the civil war, we have the struggle for woman's rights, abolition of slavery, the genocide of First Americans, the deaths and violence in the Union Movement, the shirt waist factory fire, the anti-trust movement, the civil rights movement, all just for starters.

Though it is not saying all that much, we would appear to be on a par with, or even more "civil" now, than in our past.

tech: Posted: July 20, 2014 11:38 p.m.

Indeed, Mr. Cameron.

Here's Jefferson on the press of his day:

"I deplore... the putrid state into which our newspapers have passed and the malignity, the vulgarity, and mendacious spirit of those who write for them... These ordures are rapidly depraving the public taste and lessening its relish for sound food. As vehicles of information and a curb on our funtionaries, they have rendered themselves useless by forfeiting all title to belief... This has, in a great degree, been produced by the violence and malignity of party spirit." --Thomas Jefferson to Walter Jones, 1814. ME 14:46

therightstuff: Posted: July 21, 2014 12:11 a.m.

"""Her point was quite clear to even the dullest of readers."""

Which I believe was civility. Evidently not even the dullest of readers got it, huh Steve?

chefgirl358: Posted: July 21, 2014 12:28 a.m.

She votes for the "most respectful human being". I vote for who I believe to be the best overall candidate for the country on matters like economy, domestic and foreign policy, gun rights, abortion rights, etc. I could care less if the person is he most respectful or not, just so long as he gets the job done better than the rest.

Notice I said he because I would rather chew glass than ever see that cackling hag Hillary in office. Frankly, I don't think women should be president simply because we need to present a strong man in the White House to other nations that view woman as 3rd class citizens, I think other countries think twice about challenging us with a strong male presence but would view the US as weak with a chic in charge.

stevehw: Posted: July 21, 2014 3:12 p.m.

" Frankly, I don't think women should be president "

OMG, seriously?

chefgirl358: Posted: July 21, 2014 5:15 p.m.

Yep. I think we need to present a strong front to other nations, especially the ones that have chauvenistic pigs running them that view women as weak. The last thing we need in dealing with these countries is a shrill screechy woman like Hillary or Sarah Palin (whose voice is like nails on a chalkboard to me) trying to negotiate with these twerps. And just for a moment, think of how painful it would be to listen to press conferences with those broads...UGH!

Times are really crazy right now in the Middle East, they always are, but tensions are higher in more countries there right now than usual, and I fear we are at high risk of having another attack on U.S. soil. We need someone strong, and who other countries perceive as being strong, to lead our nation. I do not believe that the U.S. is ready for a female president. Just because we CAN have one, doesn't mean we should. We shouldn't have a chic just because there hasn't been one before. Perhaps someday if the time is right and there is a genuinely great candidate for office, I'll rethink my position, but for right now...No way.

tech: Posted: July 21, 2014 6:32 p.m.

Chefgirl, I believe the ineffable quality you're seeking is gravitas. Your yardstick is limited by those currently on the political landscape.

Tell me, could you imagine a modern day Margaret Thatcher, Condi Rice or Jean Kirkpatrick in the Oval Office?

chefgirl358: Posted: July 21, 2014 8:06 p.m.

Tech, YES I certainly could. The prospects we presently have are just so bleak. I know there are capable, intelligent, strong, professional women who are/could be great leaders and role models to young women everywhere, but they sure aren't in the current lime light.

I think back of the women seeking office in recent years (Michelle Bachman -gag!, Sarah Palin - full body shudder, Hillary - need I say more, and the horrible CA politicians - Dianne Feinstein, Barbara Boxer, etc., etc.) and it's enough to turn me off to women in any politics at all! But I know there are decent women out there, they just need to get into the boxing ring.

ricketzz: Posted: July 26, 2014 10:52 a.m.

Senator Elizabeth Warren is a phenom. She can plainly state the obvious (a lost art these days). She is populism personified and Populism is the new black.

tech: Posted: July 28, 2014 8:25 p.m.

No doubt Warren is the PERFECT Netroots/Occupy politician.

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