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John Rosemond: Living with children
While working in my secret parenting laboratory, hidden deep beneath the earth's surface and accessible only by me and a small, select team of associates, I recently made what I believe is a huge and history-making breakthrough that promises to greatly improve parenting the world over.
John Rosemond: Living with children
Q: In our city, most of the high school seniors participate in "Senior Beach Week" during spring break. They rent beach houses and condos and party like there's no tomorrow. Alcohol, marijuana, and sex abound. Our friends justify allowing their kids to go by saying they have to be trusted sometime. In truth, we all have good kids who have never given us any trouble. They just want to go and be part of the ...
John Rosemond: Living With Children
Q: Our 18 month old is a table terror! While I'm preparing dinner, she walks around acting like she's starving, but as soon as we sit her in her highchair she takes a few bites and then wants down, screams, cries, and will sometimes throw food. Through all this, our 5- and 3-year-old try to talk to us but can't get a word in for all the chaos. We absolutely dread eating in a restaurant. How should we address her behavior?
John Rosemond: Living With Children
Q: For the past several weeks, our just-turned 3-year-old has been waking up and coming into our room at all hours of the night with the usual excuses. He's scared, hungry, thirsty, lonely, can't sleep, has to use the bathroom, wants a kiss, and so on. He goes to bed at 7:30 if he takes an afternoon nap and 6:30 if he doesn't. We are a marriage-centered household, so evenings are for Mom and Dad. ...
Child has taken control of family
Q: What should I do when my 9-year-old daughter loses all of her privileges because of her misbehavior but refuses to go to her room? I tried to physically force her, but she put up too much of a fight. I feel like she's in complete control of our family. I'd have never disobeyed or disrespected my parents. What have I done wrong?
How can you stop twins from fighting?
Q: How can we help our 7-year-old twin girls stop fighting? They constantly provoke and antagonize each other. We thought this was just normal sibling conflict, but it seems to be developing into actual resentment. One of them is now saying we love the ...
John Rosemond: Son's behavior problems at school
Q: Our son is in Kindergarten at a small private school. Most of the children in his class are boys. From the beginning, he's been somewhat of a behavior problem. Each time we get a notice from his teacher, we punish him. Last week, he and a boy in his class were goofing around. The boy twisted my son's arm and my son hit him to get away. Both of them were laughing the entire ...
John Rosemond: Daughter's obsessive behavior
Q: My 10-year-old daughter is having thoughts about other girls. She says she's worried because she notices and admires other girls' figures. I know this is normal, but I'm not really sure how to say to her. She seems to be obsessing about it. What's your advice?
John Rosemond: Child's Behavior at School
Q: Our son started full-day kindergarten in September. For the first three months he had no problem with his behavior at school, but for the past few weeks he has gotten in trouble for talking, not listening, and he spit at a child at school today. Taking away privileges hasn't made a difference in his behavior. He was always such a well-behaved child so we are at our wits end as far as what to ...
John Rosemond: Potty training your children
Q: This past August, when our son was a mere 22 months of age, it took him two weeks to learn to use the potty successfully. He was dry even at night. We were thrilled! However, now that the weather has turned cold, he has started wetting the bed every night and even during afternoon naptime. We tell him it's wrong but he doesn't seem to care. We even put his little potty in his crib but he doesn't use it. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
John Rosemond: Homework and other life skills
With the advent of a new school year, it seems appropriate to tackle the issue of homework: more specifically, the question of how involved parents should be and how parents can limit their involvement to only what is necessary.
John Rosemond: How to handle the ‘terrible 2s’
Q: When I ask him to do something, my 2-year-old screams "No!" and then swings at me. When he hits me, I firmly reprimand him and try to put him in time-out, but that only makes matters worse. I've tried ignoring his screaming, but that doesn't work. What should I do?
SCV teen actor in demand
For Matthew Scott Miller, of Castaic, the role of "Chatter" in Nickelodeon channel's "Fred 3: Camp Fred" was a chance to stretch his acting muscles.
ACTION Family Zone opens
Cary Quashen, CEO of ACTION Family Counseling, and life coach Alex Urbina have joined forces to found the new nonprofit ACTION Family.
Sleep wars have begun
It looks like the "sleep wars" have begun. Several weeks ago, in a column on attachment parenting, I wrote "James J. McKenna, director of the Mother-Baby Sleep Laboratory at the University of Notre Dame, says that he has yet to find any benefit to parents and children sleeping together." I arrived at that conclusion after reading an online Q/A in which he wrote "The truth is that there is no one outcome (good or bad) ...
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John Rosemond: Back in the Day
When I was a child, back in the Parenting Stone Age (a.k.a. the Parentocentric Era), your parents were the most important people in the family. They paid the bills, bought your clothes, prepared the food you ate, took care of you when you were sick, drove you to where you needed to be, tucked you in, and kissed you good night. They were essential.
John Rosemond: Playing independently
Q: Is it okay to start teaching our 1 year old how to play independently? He screams and cries when I put him in any type of enclosure if he can't get "free" (even when I arrange the furniture in a way that he has a very ample play area). Is there a method to teach him how to play by himself for at least a little bit? It seems I am following him around ...
John Rosemond: Living with Children
Q: It seems our 1 year old is showing willful disobedience. We tell him "no" and try to redirect but he does the same things over and over again. The things in question include turning over and not being cooperative when I'm trying to change him, slapping us in the face, and standing up during bath time. I'm trying to be creative with ways to entertain him and make things fun but am getting weary. Any advice on how I can correct him?
John Rosemond: Dealing with child's negativity
Q: Our 7-year-old son is very negative about everything. He's a middle child, so that may have something to do with it, but everyone else in the family is very happy, positive, optimistic, and so on. He never has anything positive to say about anything. Things the rest of us enjoy he says are "stupid" or "dumb." We raise all of our kids the same, so we don't understand where the negativity is coming from, ...
John Rosemond: Discipline in organized way
One of the reasons-it's probably in the top three reasons, in fact-that parents fail at solving discipline problems is they try to solve too many at once. In so doing, they scatter their disciplinary energy too thinly and end up solving none. The only thing they accomplish is getting more frustrated and more convinced that there is something about their child that renders discipline ineffective-a gene perhaps, inherited from the father (who else?), that causes ...
John Rosemond: Living with Children
American parents have been listening to professional psycho-babblers tell them how to raise children since the late 1960s. I was in graduate school at the time, and my professors thought the babblers were geniuses, sent by some New Age divinity to correct all the egregious wrongs parents had done to children since time immemorial. Children were about to enter a Golden Age in which their opinions would not only be listened to but also taken ...
John Rosemond: Living with children
In the seventh grade I was promoted by my peers from president of the class geek-nerd-brainiac society to, well, if not fully cool, then at least on the way. I had discovered two sports I excelled in-golf and baseball-and the girls had discovered that I was one of the best, if not the best, dancer in the class. My classmates began overlooking the fact that I was a straight-A student, always sported a few pimples, and wore thick glasses.
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