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Create a romantic home all year

Decor: Tips to set the mood for Valentine’s Day and every day

Posted: February 11, 2012 2:00 a.m.
Updated: February 11, 2012 2:00 a.m.

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As Valentine’s Day approaches again this year, our hearts and minds turn to romance. The stores are filled with red roses, heart-shaped boxes of chocolates, Valentine’s Day balloons and, of course, Valentine cards. Who doesn’t want to spend a romantic evening on Valentine’s Day?

But why not let the romance last all year long? Here are some tips for creating a sanctuary in your home into which you can retreat at any time, feeling relaxed and in the mood for romance. We’ll get to the bedroom, but first, let’s take a look at the rest of your home.  

Soft lighting

Harsh lighting isn’t attractive or relaxing. Install some dimmers so that you can dim the lights to create different moods. Make sure that your rooms aren’t lit solely by overhead lights. Add some soft lighting through the use of table lamps and wall sconces.  

Flowers, plants, etc.

Keep some fresh flowers in your home. They’ll smell wonderful and add color and beauty. If fresh flowers aren’t possible all the time, supplement with some green plants and silk florals. Place them in your entry, your living room, dining room and kitchen.

Make sure that your home has a pleasant and welcoming scent. Use flowers, candles, potpourri or essential oil warmers to add wonderful scents such as vanilla, sandalwood or citrus. 

Master bedroom

Now that your home is welcoming and comfortable, let’s concentrate on the master bedroom. This is your private sanctuary — the place you go to escape from the stresses of the outside world. Create the place you love coming home to, the place you’d rather be more than anywhere else.

Your bedroom should have soft, beautiful lighting. Bedside lamps should have three-way switches, allowing you to not only read in bed, but also to create a romantic mood. I have a salt lamp in my bedroom that creates a soft, warm glow while also releasing negative ions, which are known to be relaxing and healthful.

Candles also provide beautiful lighting. Everyone looks better in candlelight. Have candles on decorative plates on both nightstands, and on dressers or tables in other areas of your bedroom. Light them all when you want to create a lovely, soft glow.

Choose a relaxing scent, such as lavender, to melt your stresses away. If real candles make you nervous, there are some wonderful battery-operated candles that create a soft glow that appears very similar to real candlelight. Add a touch of an essential oil to create a relaxing scent.

Place mirrors in such a way that they reflect the softened light. Mirrors also reflect life energy and are a great way to create a warm, inviting feeling in your room.

Window treatments should be soft but functional. Have the ability to draw the draperies or close the shades to darken the room from street lights or harsh sunlight. Flowing fabrics on your windows create a soft, romantic feeling.

Colors are important to consider because they affect us physically and emotionally. For the bedroom choose soft, warm colors. Soft blues and aquas are especially soothing. Try to avoid harsh, bright colors or reds, which are more energizing than relaxing.

To create an overall soft glow in your room, be sure to paint the ceiling the same color as the walls. You’ll be amazed how relaxing it feels.  

Your bed

Your bed should be extremely restful and comfortable. Don’t skimp on your mattress. After all, you spend one-third of your life in bed. Your bed should have luxurious linens.

I love down comforters and pillows. There’s nothing like the feel of down.

For those who are allergic, there are now wonderful synthetic downs.

But don’t overdo the pillows on the bed. Keep it simple and inviting.  


In the master bathroom, have some soft, plush towels, and maybe even his and hers robes. You’ll feel like you’re at a luxurious resort. Dim the lighting or add some candles around the tub.  

No distractions

In keeping with a romantic feeling, if possible, hide the TV or remove it entirely from the bedroom. An attractive armoire can be closed when the TV is not in use. Keep a small music system in the bedroom, even if it’s just an iPod and some speakers. Playing some beautiful, romantic music will be very relaxing.

Last, but not least, remove work materials from your bedroom. If at all possible, do not put a desk in your bedroom. Use an extra bedroom as an office or have a small work area in your kitchen or den. Bringing work into the bedroom will change the energy from relaxing to stressful. Try to leave the stresses of the day outside of your bedroom.

Try some of these tips and see how much better you’ll feel. You can create a private, romantic sanctuary in your own home. And for Valentine’s Day, add some champagne and chocolate-covered strawberries.

Pamela Jaffke, ASID, CID, has been creating beautiful, functional interiors for more than 25 years. She can be reached at or at (661) 255-9880.


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