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Memories of Mom

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Posted: May 11, 2014 2:00 a.m.
Updated: May 11, 2014 2:00 a.m.

Morris and Lucille Crawford. Courtesy photo

 

Mom passed away on Feb 22, 2013.

No matter how much your mind knows that day is coming, it’s impossible to prepare your heart for the reality when it gets here.

The following quote from Benjamin Franklin appeared in The Signal on the day Mom’s grandson, Sam, passed away at the age of 20: “It is the will of God and nature that these mortal bodies be laid aside, when the soul is to enter into real life; ‘tis rather an embryo state, a preparation for living; a man is not completely born until he be dead. Why then should we grieve that a new child is born among the immortals?”

So, we do not grieve our loss, but rather we remember and celebrate the good times and the joy that Mom brought to each of our lives.

Mom loved life.

She loved learning new things. She learned how to use the computer and loved being connected to her family through e-mail and Skype.

She loved taking pictures and sharing the memories they brought back. She loved ice cream and bedtime snacks. She loved to travel and explore new sights.

Some of our best memories are of family vacations to Florida and Canada and Washington, D.C.

From the day I left for college the migration of our family began.

One by one we left home, but always with Mom and Dad’s support and encouragement to live our own lives. They realized that by giving us that freedom, they would not be losing us; they would actually be bringing us closer together.

Two things about Mom that really stand out to me are her strength and determination, and her love and compassion.

Mom may have been small, but she could be as tough as they come.

The first time I realized just how strong and determined she could be was 60 years ago.

In the fall of 1952 our family was struck by Polio. My sister Donna had a mild case, but our brother Gerry was hit with an extremely severe case; and Mom was pregnant with our sister Sandy.

Gerry’s chances of surviving, let alone walking were next to none. It is only by the Grace of God and the strength and determination of both Mom and Dad that we have a brother today.

As much as she loved life, Mom also cherished the quality of life, not only for herself, but also for her family.

She fought longer and harder than most of us could imagine. And as long as she could fight for herself, with the support of her family, she kept on going.

But when it finally reached the point where it was going to take a machine to keep fighting for her, she had had enough.

Even though our family is spread out, we’ve always managed to stay close.

Mom often said that in spite of the distance between us we were closer than many who might live right down the street from one another. She said the distance doesn’t matter; it’s the love in our hearts that counts.

Mom’s love extended beyond our family to literally everyone she met. She always put others before herself. She would listen with understanding and compassion. She genuinely cared.

And in turn, everyone who ever met her loved her right back.

Love was a given in our family and it all began with the love that Mom and Dad had for each other.

I’ve never known any two people who loved and cherished each other more than our Mom and Dad. When they took their wedding vows some 68 years ago they became “one.” That’s how it always has been, and that’s how it always will be.

Their “oneness” is evident in something as insignificant as their e-mail addresses.

The first was lucillemorris@aol.com; the other was morrislucille@insightbb.com.

There was never an “&” between their names. It was always, and only, one name.

Sadly, Dad passed away just a few months later on August 26, so they are together again and their “oneness” continues.

The love they had for each other is the same love they had for each of us, including our spouses and their grandkids. It was unquestioning, never ending and unconditional.

Because of that amazing love, Mom and Dad will always be in each of our hearts.

Now they are at peace. And they truly do live among the immortals.

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