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Our Fight Against Bullying

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Posted: December 8, 2013 2:00 a.m.
Updated: December 8, 2013 2:00 a.m.
 

Bullying is an increasing problem that affects the lives of students every day. This can happen anywhere from school to the online growing social media. When a person is bullied it affects their everyday life.

We want it to stop.

“Sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me.” This common phrase is heard so often we seem to forget that cruel words and actions do hurt. These repetitive harsh words and actions are also known as bullying. There are three forms of bullying; verbal bullying (taunting, name calling) physical bullying (hitting, yelling), and social bullying (gossip, leaving someone out).

Why then do people bully others if they know it is the wrong thing to do? People that choose to bully others often want to make themselves feel better because they may feel lesser than other people. They may also choose to use their popularity, physical strengths and or talents to point out others weaknesses or flaws. This is also called the “Imbalance of Power,” because the person uses his or her power in a negative way.

A majority of people in the United States watch television and go on the Internet. It entertains us and takes away our boredom when we have absolutely nothing to do. It just seems like the joy of the media can never end! There are so many good things that the media can bring to us, but sometimes it seems as people completely ignore the bad things. The media can also set hurtful, untrue stereotypes, and influence terrible behavior.

What are examples of these stereotypes? One example is that men/boys have to be tough, and show no, what is known as, ‘feminine emotions’, such as sadness. If they cry, they are considered not to be ‘real men’, which is false. This can be easily used as a weapon for the use of bullying. It is definitely okay for a man to show emotion.

Another stereotype we adopt from the media is our view of beauty.

Our view of beauty is so narrow-minded and limited, that this becomes a prime element that is used for bullying others. Most models, although gorgeous, have to be tall, thin, and sometimes even have to have desirable body features. According to our media, to be beautiful, you cannot be overweight, too short, and not lack in feminine body traits. This is so untruthful, and can be emotionally upsetting if used against someone. Why can’t our community have bigger or shorter girls as models as well? If people open their perspective of beauty, these girls can be stunning as well. And they are stunning! And not only that, but it can also stop some cases of bullying as well!

These were only a couple of a myriad of stereotypes than can be used and influenced by bullies.

If you are a victim of bullying, express to the bully that you do not appreciate how he/she is treating you. If it continues talk to a teacher, school counselor, principal, or any staff administrator at your school. You are not alone, and your voice counts. If you are a bully, please take note to remember that not all kids may have the same lifestyle as you. They may have come from a sorrowful, tragic background, so maybe that’s why they are different. That is what makes them unique and special. And if you come from an unbearable background, don’t take out your anger and frustrations on other people. Tell an adult what is going on, and they may be able to assist you. Also if you see bullying happen speak up, don’t just stand there. You could change their day and make a new friend!

Rachel Larimer, Isabella Zepeda, and Renz Culaste are ninth-graders at SCVi Charter School.

 

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